Friday, 25 August 2017

The neglected 'me'

When I was younger and lived at home I would always say to my Mum....'Mum why don't you get your hair done at the hair dressers, why don't you go and buy yourself some new clothes/shoes. My Mum was always putting herself before everyone else.
Since having Munchkin I turned onto the woman my Mum was....putting everyone and everything before me. I neglected me and as embarrassed as I am to say it I haven't had my hair cut in about 5 years. I don't get my nails done, I don't have several perfumes....actually I own two at very most and a only buy a new one when my existing one runs out. Continuing on the embarrassing side of things.....most of my knickers are at least 5 years old! Yes I know I know!! Basically I've lived by the fact that if I have something and it does the job.....why buy new.

When it comes to buying something for Hubs or Munchkin I don't think twice! I will happily pay £15 for jeans for munchkin but wont spend that on myself. Hubs is constantly telling me to buy whatever I want but I just feel like I have better things to spend the money on.

Its not just fashion that I have neglected myself with its my health. I bite my nails (horrible habit I know!) Its something that I've always done. I get embarrassed going to get acrylic nails because if the state of my nails. My skin has been neglected also.
I hadn't been to the dentist for years as I just saw it as an expense that I didn't want to fork out on so about a month ago when I had to have a tooth out my Hubby said enough is enough and signed me up to a private dentist. Of course before you can get signed up you have to have any pre existing issues sorted first resulting in a £1500 bill for bits and bobs. Since having Munchkin 6 years ago yes I brushed my teeth but used the cheapest toothbrush/toothpaste I could find and just gave them a quick brush before I dashed off to do the next thing on my list.

This blog post isn't a 'poor me' post but its me realising that I can spend some time and money on me and not feel guilty for it. A lot of my friends go to the hair dressers once a month, have a tan, eyebrows, eyelashes and nails done very regularly as well as having all the top brands...(Not that there is anything wrong with that) while that will never completely be me, I am going to make an effort now that I've turned 30 to look after 'Me' a bit more. I know that there are more people out there like me who have neglected themselves because they think the money is better used somewhere else within the house/family. Let me know in the comments if you have neglected 'you'.


  1. I could have written this myself - empathise on the self-neglect, putting others first, the nails and the teeth.

  2. I think it's easy to forget about yourself when you're a mum. I hope you continue to find time to do the little things to take care of yourself.